Being a parent is stressful. There. I said it.
Being a parent is the most difficult and challenging job I have ever had, but also the most gratifying. Everyone says my son is calm, and that he must get it from me... but most of the time I am anything but calm. My multi-tasking has reached an all time high with scheduling clients & meetings, writing emails, planning my lectures for teaching at University, writing manuals, cleaning house, running errands, creating & directing film projects, teaching yoga or clients, oh and opening a new fitness studio. Did I mention I am trying to coordinate international travel for this spring and summer to teach Clubbell Yoga seminars, all from a small sleepy town known as Bellingham. Somewhere in that tornado that is my life, I find time to come home and nurse my little one everyday between engagements and make him homemade organic baby food purees, play with him and take him to the baby's story time at the library a few times each month.
There is absolutely no room for mind states that are not serving me or my family. This is why my non-resolution for 2014 is to give up negative stress. And also to give up anything and everything that brings negative stress or contributes to a stressful environment. I simply don't have any extra energy to waste on it.
Some stress is actually good for you. Positive stress is referred to as Eustress: the positive cognitive response to stress that is healthy or gives one a feeling of fulfillment or other positive feelings. That is the stress of having a reasonable deadline, or being nervous to present in front of a large group. That stress can actually help you perform. The negative stress I am talking about comes from over booking, allowing negative self talk to creep in, self doubt and lack of balance.
I recently read a blog from a woman who committed to eating only Starbucks products for an entire year. Now that would take some serious discipline. I read the article, though brief, her main reason for doing it was simply because she enjoys being human and asking Why?
"So again, WHY? am I doing this challenge? Or WHY? will I do any challenge in the future? Because I LOVE being human and I LOVE the privilege of being able to ask the question WHY? in the first place! I love the question WHY? because sometimes I find that the answer leaves me with even more questions about life…"
If a woman can consume all Starbucks for an entire year, then why the hell shouldn't I be able to give up stress for a year. A daily regimen of meditation twice a day, yoga, hugs, less caffeine, more balance. I think that sounds like a really great way to bring in the New Year. Yes, it will be challenging, I may fail, but I will very likely grow in the process. Changing habits is the hardest thing to do. But it just takes commitment to changing your mind and your perspective.
Entrepreneur, yogi, creator who seeks to inspire people everyday through movement.